In a
conversation with a friend who graduated from one of Ghana's universities and
doing her national service with one of the local telecom companies, she said to
me, "Anokye, I feel so much pressure. Growing up is painful."
I wish I
could get the right words to explain to her that growing up was not as painful
as she thought. Clearly, she's a young woman in her early twenties so taking
full responsibility of her upkeep while juggling the daily demands of work and
other engagements came to her as a burden. She was new to the terrain and she
was right to feel so. But to those who have been in this terrain for a while
now and still think growing up is painful, I cannot console you.
This
write-up might even add pepper to your troubles. Seriously, life is not
promised to be any easier. If so, there's no point being happy when we are
victorious or have surmounted a challenge. Life is meant to be for the
strong-willed. It is for the mentally-strong. It's not for the weakling.
Many of
us pray that God takes our challenges away from us. That is a bad prayer to
waste your time on. Because as long as you're on this side of the planet, not
only will your challenges not disappear, they grow in magnitude as you grow in
age. It is the reason you see some old folks ending up so badly in the long
run. It simply means their capacity to handle challenges didn't grow as they
aged. As you advance in age, you have more on your hands. Hitherto, you had no
one to worry your head about. You had someone to provide whenever you needed
money. Now, you need to go out there to get that money to fend for yourself.
For some of us, not only for ourselves, but our families; our spouses and
children. And if you're a business person, you have to think about the well-being of your staff. Handling these challenges at various levels at the
same time comes to many as a huge burden. And trust me, it's not as though I
have a handle on it perfectly...we strive to do so.

So for
those who are ever expecting for life to get any easier, your expectations will
be cut short. Grow stronger. Feed your mind to get stronger to deal with the
daily vicissitudes of life. It won't get any easier or less tough; you have to
get tougher. Growing up is not meant to be painful. It is a call to wisdom; to
maturity, and to mental stamina.